A Lesson in Affecting Change

Dear Q,

If there is anything I learned during my years of training advocacy strategies, it’s this: don’t fight against what you don’t want.  Focus your time, money, and energy on what you want to achieve, not on what you want to eradicate.  Give your attention to your desired outcome, whatever that is.  What do you want?

- Equitable access and opportunities?
- Health for all?
- Corporate integrity?
- Peace?
- Equal rights under the law?
- Social inclusion?
- Justice?

Whatever you focus on, you feed.  Be aware of where you direct your energy.

Love always,
Mom

International Women’s Day

March 8th marks International Women’s Day.  I have decided to set aside my cynicism (at least publicly) and be positive.

That we shouldn’t need a day doesn’t mean we shouldn’t have one; we still need it.

I have many hopes for all who identify as women.  I look forward to a time when:

  • what makes us different is celebrated and valued
  • we are all free to make our own choices without fear of judgment and persecution for not meeting gender role expectations
  • we are free to be proud of our gender and what it affords us
  • we can stop feeling pressure to meet the male standard and seek sameness, but change the standard to include and value what makes us women
  • we can all possess ownership of of our bodies and reproductive potential
  • we can all express ourselves in ways that we deem appropriate
  • we all have access to equitable opportunities, pay, and acknowledgement
  • the unpaid work that we do is valued as much or more than the paid work we do
  • we all receive recognition for what we contribute to the world in which we live

I look forward to a time when we don’t have to designate a day to celebrate our worth.

What are your hopes for those of the world who identify as women?