Comments on: Even monkeys can raise their young!

By: Sarah Carmichael

Sarah Carmichael — Sat, 26 Jun 2010 03:22:44 +0000

You should start a blog! I’m not gonna lie, it takes time. However, I feel like it takes time away from other things I do online (like Facebook) instead of time I spend offline.

Lemme know if you want to get started and I’ll help ya out if you need it.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 02:15:08 +0000

Definately great. I keep thinking I should start a blog. But don’t know where to start and right now don’t have the time. I feel I’m too glued to the computer as it is and need to be spending that time with the boys. Maybe one day…

By: Sarah Carmichael

Sarah Carmichael — Thu, 24 Jun 2010 23:30:19 +0000

Great, isn’t it? I love to see the different perspectives.

No, trying to fit Q into the schedule I chose for him never worked!

By: Lisa

Lisa — Thu, 24 Jun 2010 23:22:54 +0000

Wow – the responses to this post are great and thought provoking. I love to read what others have to say, even if I don’t agree.
I do agree though that going on instinct is the right way to go. You cannot force kids into a schedule to suit you, you all have to find your own way and it will all fall into place.
Thanks for all the interesting comments and posts.

By: Sarah Carmichael

Sarah Carmichael — Thu, 24 Jun 2010 19:31:27 +0000

Absolutely! The majority of parents are decent and good who raise decent and good people.

I really do believe that love makes all the difference and I live by when in doubt, love.

By: Sarah Carmichael

Sarah Carmichael — Thu, 24 Jun 2010 19:28:58 +0000

Thanks, Shannon! Once I surrendered to Q’s schedule, everything seemed to fit into place. He sleeps when he is tired and eats when he is hungry… and I can almosst set a clock by him. I think they know what they need – we just need to be in tune with them and listen.

Great point.

By: Sarah Carmichael

Sarah Carmichael — Thu, 24 Jun 2010 19:26:27 +0000

That’s really it is all about a nice, confident, caring, curious kid.

By: Sarah Carmichael

Sarah Carmichael — Thu, 24 Jun 2010 19:23:58 +0000

I completely agree. it is hard not to get wrapped up in the the shoulds and just trust ourselves, especially when some of the experts opinions conflict with each other. How are we supposed to know who to listen to if not ourselves?

I read one book and I abandonned it after Q turned one. For the first year it was helpful to know that things were normal, but after that it not only didn’t help us, it put pressure on the milestones and developement.

By: Sarah Carmichael

Sarah Carmichael — Thu, 24 Jun 2010 19:20:12 +0000

I haven’t read Momma Zen, but I am thinking I will. I am interested to see more of her perspective on parenting.

By: Sarah Carmichael

Sarah Carmichael — Thu, 24 Jun 2010 19:19:11 +0000

Definitely worth the read, Kristen.

we have been programmed to do this job. Exactly!

You make a good point about community. I think it makes a huge difference. We don’t have the support systems that other animals have. I think it truly is a detriment to everyone. Children need to learn for many people, as do parents. So many of us are very much alone in this journey.